N – NATURE NURTURES | Anjana Shamballa Life Coach in bangalore

Recently while I was on a break, I sat and wrote about how Nature really nurtured my soul.

Listening to the trees rustle, sound of the sea, taste of the salt, colours you see.. . As I wrote this I realized that all my senses were being tickled. Life just slowed down.

What a wonderful calming and peaceful space. So grounding and just being able to connect to yourself. So therefore, I was in a completely different space, I felt.

Nature lifts me. It could be the mountains, the hills, my garden, the sea .. anything away from the city life, I guess.

All my FB and Instagram Anjana Shamballa profile followers will know how many photographs of flowers and sunsets I share. I just cannot help it. They truly bring a smile to my heart.

Last year I had a lot of health issues. I went to the mountains and spent a few weeks at my Sisters home. Definitely, something I will never forget, as my recuperation was just incredible. Looking at the hills, mountains, trees, birds, animals, stunning sunsets just changed my energy completely.

The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely, or unhappy is to go outside, somewhere where they can be quite alone with the heavens, nature and God. Because only then does one feel that all is as it should be and that God wishes to see people happy amidst the simple beauty of nature. …I firmly believe that nature brings solace in all troubles.  Anne Frank

Honestly, none of us can always be on holiday. What can or what should we do to feel this way more often? I want to feel and experience this more often.  How do I  create this for myself in my home?

Each of us is nurtured by something different. Some need the mountains and some the sea. One may need sun and the other snow or cold.

What are the sounds that you enjoy? The sea, rain, stream, birds chirping, animals, waterfall …

What steps can we take to create what we want? To live in that wonderful space? To keep experiencing our “ nature haven”?

I sometimes just remove my shoes and walk barefoot on the grass – this is just a most wonderful feeling and very grounding too.

SIMPLE FUN STEPS

Find some photographs or a poster of the landscape that lifts you. And place it somewhere that You notice it daily.

All the sounds, music, birds chirping etc. are available online. Just get on and find the one that suits your mood.

Add some pine cones or seashells or colours that lift you.

Get some plants and flowers into your space. It really helps. 🙂 And if you cannot, the no. of good quality artificial plants available is amazing too.

I, in my office bathroom ( haha ), have tiles which really lift me too. Here’s a photo.

Take a deep breath and inhale. Think of the place You want to be in now. Remember the way you felt or you would like to feel there. Exhale and feel that feeling.

Feel it, Breathe it , Create it, Visualise it and Live it.

Our minds are very powerful. So certainly use it to your advantage by visualising what you want to feel.  Once you do that you can believe it and feel it too.

Enjoy spending your beautiful moments in Nature. Cherish it.

God is the friend of silence. See how nature – trees, flowers, grass- grows in silence; see the stars, the moon and the sun, how they move in silence… We need silence to be able to touch souls. -Mother Teresa

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Mirror Blog by Anjana Shamballa Life Coach in Bangalore

Have you tried mirror work?

Can you say I Love You to yourself?

All those who work with me know for sure that I absolutely love using mirror work with my clients and in my workshops.

As I Anjana Shamballa a Life Coach started on my journey of self-exploration many years ago I read Louise Hay’s Mirror workbook. Oh how difficult could this be, I thought to myself.

But do you realize that one of the things most people find very difficult is praising themselves? And now imagine if I ask you to say “ I love you” to yourself while looking into a small mirror. Many clients have cried as they have never expressed anything like this to themselves before.

At one of my workshops of “Loving yourself,” a client said that she could not do this exercise of saying ‘ I love You’ to herself. Because said felt that it was more important to be able to say I love you to her family first. But I really do feel that if you do not know how to love yourself, how can you love anyone else? You must know and experience love and positivity to be able to share it too.

Mirror work is definitely one of the most powerful ways to work towards Self-love.

Normally I ask my clients to start with one affirmation ( which we personalise together ).

Look into the mirror and start affirming to yourself daily. For example, You decide to say “ I am healthy “ as your affirmation and all through the day you just keep chanting I am healthy.This could just become something in the background which is getting no real attention from You.  On the other hand, You look into a mirror and say to yourself while looking into your eyes, I am healthy. The impact is very different. And if you can add your name to the affirmation, it can become even more powereful.

When you use a mirror to work with an affirmation or just talk positively, you become more aware of what you are saying, what you are resisting. A lot of people I have worked with find looking into a mirror and talking to themselves very difficult. Yes, initially it is. But many things we start initially are difficult. Then it just becomes easier with practice.

Once you plant the seed and start doing this regularly, You can see and feel the difference soon. When you talk positively to yourself and start giving yourself positive messages, it changes the way you look and feel about yourself too.

M-mirrorHOW CAN I TRY MIRROR WORK?

I feel you should start mirror work by a simple “ I love you “ or a specific affirmation for yourself.

This I tell my clients you should look into a mirror and say to yourself 21 times daily. ( Honestly how long can it take ? ) And the important thing is to do this for at least 21 days.

Having the discipline to do it for 21 days will plant the seeds and start the growth of a new habit.

And as Louise Hay always taught us .. every time you pass a mirror give yourself a bit of a pep….. ‘ Looking good’ , ‘ Hey there Gorgeous’

Every time something good happens in your life,  go to the mirror and say Thank you to yourself and give yourself a pat on the back.

And if something happens that You are not happy with,’Its ok, this too shall pass .. I love You’

You decide what you want to say. Use positive words to lift yourself physically, emotionally and spiritually.

Some Powerful affirmations by Louise Hay which  you can start with ( or contact me so we can make one specifically for You )

“ I deserve to live a good life and I begin now “

“ I am in perfect health “

“ Every experience I have is perfect for my growth “

I must admit I do look into the mirror and smile at myself and then just give myself a wink 😉

I have many affirmations stuck on mirrors all over my home. Every time I see it, I smile and affirm to myself positively.

Make your mirror your pal who you talk to ..and not just to see how you are looking physically.

Enjoy your time with yourself.

laughter best medicine for Depression treatment for a better life

Seriously .. do we need a blog on laughter?

Why? Don’t we all know that laughter is the best medicine and good for Depression treatment??

If this is true, then why are we not laughing more in life? Why are we looking for laughter therapy, laughter yoga, laughter workshops?

Where has laughter disappeared?

Have you seen children laugh? Have you heard them laugh? How does it make you feel?

I immediately start smiling or laughing when I see kids laughing. My heart just feels full.

Honestly, how often do you laugh? Daily, weekly?

What makes you laugh? Who makes you laugh?

I must share something fun we do as a Family. We sit with the kids and put on Youtube videos of Babies laughing ( or doing silly cute things ) .. this drives my husband into splits, followed by another one giggling at him and another laughing..  and what follows is all of us laughing together. It is one of the funniest sights to see .. who is laughing at what and who no one knows.

After all, laughter is contagious right?

“ There is nothing in the world so irresistibly contagious as laughter and good humor “

- Charles Dickens

We share with others when we are upset, angry, have anxiety, excited... But when is the last time we shared our laughter.

At one of my workshops, I took everyone into the garden. I started laughing and told them to try it too. First, they looked at me like I was nuts but eventually all ( but one ) started laughing.

Why was it difficult for one person? Because she felt she needed a reason to laugh .. not just laugh for the sake of it. Now I think differently ..I feel Life is living and loving and laughing and being.

Laughing is something which anyone at any age can do.

I often hear people say I just don’t know how to laugh anymore.

Let me share a few simple things you can incorporate into your life to lighten it and laugh a bit more.

• A smile is as contagious as laughter. So just smile more .. smile at the trees, the birds, the buildings, because you are here, at someone walking by .. anyone and anything. Just smile 😊
• When you hear people laughing, move towards that. People love sharing funny stories and love the reaction and attention they get when sharing these too.
• Basically, this means that try and spend more time with fun, playful people. Laughter lightens our moods.
• Every day or week ask someone “ What's the funniest thing that has happened to you recently?” This makes one think and smile as they and You recount all the fun things that have happened.
• Get on YouTube and watch funny videos .. there are so many of them. Or read fun stuff more often.

There are so many ways to laugh more. Find the one that works best for you.

Who do you feel in your life always makes you laugh or feel light? Spend more time with them.

Just a few benefits of Laughter - ( But do we need to know the benefits to laugh )

• Laughter can make your relationships stronger &  help resolve disagreements and tension.
• Laughter helps you relax and destress.
• Laughter helps in Depression treatment and improve for daily lifestyle.
• Laughter burns calories. ( ok a few but it still does )
• Laughter boosts your immunity.
• Laughter releases endorphins...

“ Laughter is and always will be the best therapy “

Make a pact with yourself for at least a week that you will laugh daily. "I will have a good laugh".

See how you feel. Any shifts? Any difference in any way?

I would love to hear what you feel helps you. Who helps?

Do share your thoughts and comments and SMILE 😊

Life is about living and laughing and sharing so let's share something funny that could help others laugh too 😁

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K – Kindness | Anjana Shamballa Life Coach in bangalore

A quick short blog ☺️

My this blog K has been delayed a lot .Am sorry, I must say.

I felt really guilty when I could not get it out on time, but I told myself, it’s ok. It’s more important that I am kind to myself and not feel guilty.

Life over the last few weeks have been very hectic ..feel I have just been on the move and in this state honestly between my health and travel I just could not write.

A wonderful children’s program ( Sesame Street )  has a wonderful video that teaches kindness to children saying K is for kindness. Unlike many books which taught us K for king or K for kangaroo, I feel we must teach children how important kindness is to others and to ourselves too.

Kindness is defined as the quality of being friendly, generous and compassionate. If we can apply this to our life we by being kind to others become more gentle, more affectionate, more compassionate too.

There are many types of kindness:

• Kindness to people: giving a sibling a hug, helping someone in need, and listening to a friend.
• Kindness to animals: adopting a pet, filling up a cat’s water bowl, or walking a dog.
• Kindness to the environment: recycling, planting a garden, throwing garbage away.

Kindness has been found by Scientists to be the most important in satisfaction and stability of relationships. Many colleges, including Harvard, are now emphasizing this on applications for admission.

As this is a quick short blog, my only question to you is

Do you show kindness to yourself?

And if so, can you share the different ways you do.

We all do learn from each other right ☺️

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J - Judging Ourselves | Anjana Shamballa | Angel card therapy in Bangalore

Judgment is just an opinion - it could be a positive or negative one .. but it truly is just an opinion.

For example - You may feel Anjana writes these blogs and they are very personal. Now that is your opinion, your judgment about my blogs. But does that mean they are true? No. It’s what your opinion is about my blogs.

I feel I want to share whatever I can with You and hopefully hearing about a personal story may make it easier for You to connect with. So when we are judging someone it is just our opinion about them, not the truth. You may make it your truth, but what is the real truth?

There is an amazing verse in the Bible which says “ Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.“

This is something to always remember. If we have so many opinions of others, how much do we judge ourselves?

Self-judgement is like someone within trying to tell you what is right and wrong ( in their opinion )

• I should have... I am so silly.
• Why do I keep making the same mistakes? Why can't I learn?
• I called her and she hasn’t called me back. She must think or be ...
• I shouldn’t have said that. Oh dear, why did I?
• I should, I could, why didn’t I?

Can you take a diary and now note a list of things or ways you speak to yourself and judge yourself?

One of the ways I work with this in my workshops is to ask people to think of a friend going through a hardship. What would you say to the? Would you console them? How would you react?

Now put yourself in the same situation and honestly think - what would you say to yourself?

Can you be as kind to yourself as you would have been with your friend?

Butterflies can't see their wings. They can't see how truly beautiful they are, but everyone else can. People are like that as well.” ― Naya Rivera

There is an amazing method to judge ourselves less and this is called the DUAL method.

1. Don't pass judgment. If you find yourself being judgmental, stop yourself. ...
2. Understand. Instead of judging someone for what he's done or how he looks, try instead to understand the person. ...
3. Accept. Once you begin to understand, or at least think you kind of understand, try to accept. ...
4. Love.

To liberate yourself from your own self-judgment is to liberate others from it as well. To love yourself is an act of love for the world.” ― Vironika Tugaleva

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I Ikigai | Anjana Shamballa | Life Coach in Bangalore

The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life Might Just Help You Live a More Fulfilling Life – ( Your reason to Be / for being )

The Japanese island of Okinawa, where ikigai has its origins, is said to be home to the largest population of centenarians in the world.

One international study found that people who have a sense of purpose in life are at lower risk of death and heart disease. Why? Researchers found that those who feel purpose often have healthier lifestyles. They are more motivated and resilient, which protects them from stress and burnout.

Discovering your own ikigai is said to bring fulfilment, happiness and make you live longer.

Want to find your Ikigai? Ask yourself the following four questions:
What you love (your passion)
What the world needs (your mission)
What you are good at (your vocation)
What you can get paid for (your profession)

{ So am going to try and find and share mine here…
I love being there for people, helping them, sharing all I have with them. I want to help people heal and laugh and just Be. When I am doing this or my sessions or workshops is when I feel the happiest.
I feel the world needs more love and compassion and understanding and being there for one another.
I feel I am good at helping people tap into a happier and more positive version of themselves.
So doing this makes me a coach, a healer? And Yes I can and do get paid for this. }

Ikigai has a few essential qualities that separate it from the “follow your passion” truism as we conceive of it in Western culture:

It’s challenging. Your ikigai should lead to mastery and growth.
It’s your choice. You should feel a certain degree of autonomy and freedom pursuing your ikigai.
It involves a commitment of time and belief, perhaps to a particular cause, skill, trade, or group of people.
It boosts your well-being. Ikigai is associated with positive relationships and good health. It gives you more energy than it takes away.

In their book Ikigai The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life, Hector Garcia and Francesc Miralles break down the ten rules that can help anyone find their own ikigai.

1. Stay active and don’t retire
2. Leave urgency behind and adopt a slower pace of life
3. Only eat until you are 80 per cent full
4. Surround yourself with good friends
5. Get in shape through daily, gentle exercise
6. Smile and acknowledge people around you
7. Reconnect with nature
8. Give thanks to anything that brightens our day and makes us feel alive.
9. Live in the moment
10. Follow your ikigai

Author Neil Pasricha suggests running your ikigai through the Saturday Morning Test:

The Saturday Morning Test is your answer to one simple question: What do you do on a Saturday morning when you have nothing to do?

“Follow your bliss.” Find where it is, and don’t be afraid to follow it.”

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Humbleness | Anjana shamballa | Holistic Life Coach in Bangalore

Humbleness – not really considered a word but is sometimes used, though it is not considered standard by some.

Humbleness is the quality of being modest or unpretentious. When one is humble one keeps you from bragging about all the places you’ve traveled, things You possess and the many languages you speak.

The reason I chose the word “ HUMBLENESS “ is because of a story my father had told me when I was a child.

My grandfather shared this with my father and he shared it with me.

If you see a mango tree without any mangoes you can see it stand tall. As the tree gets more mangoes, you can see it bend down, lower itself. The more mangoes it has, the slower it goes. Papa said “ Always remember to be like a mango tree. The more you have, the more humble you should be” WOW! That is a story I have never forgotten and hope to learn to live with humbleness.

How can we be more humble?

Stop talking. One way to practice humility is to spend more time listening than you do talking. … share your ear.

Give other people credit.

It’s absolutely ok to admit when you’re wrong.

Let others take, talk first. Go last.

No one of us is an expert in everything. Ask for advice. It will help You.

Praise others. Make them feel good for what they have done or who they are and see how good you feel too.

‘Research shows that humbleness is connected with courage, integrity, trust, self-control, and better relationships.

These are some characteristics of humble people.

• A humble person is teachable. When one is humble one can always learn from the education and experiences of his life and others.
• A humble person is open and is quick to read, invite feedback, and ask good questions.
• A humble person is at peace with themselves and others. Humility puts relationships before the need to be right. Humility enjoys balance and harmony.
• A humble person is grateful. 
• A humble person is slow to offend and quick to forgive.
• A humble person asks for help. Humility helps us know who we are and who we are not.
• Humility allows us to live authentically. A humble person treats everybody with respect.
•  A humble person is patient and doesn’t easily get frustrated with the imperfection of others.
• A humble person recognizes their own limitations. Humility doesn’t have a negative view of self. Humility has an accurate view of self.
• A humble person celebrates the accomplishments of others

So here’s to new humbler beginnings.

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Gentle and grumpy | Anjanashamballa | Life Coach Bangalore

Gentle and grumpy? Yes 🙂

Ok, let’s start with Gentle. Gentle is being kind, mild or tender temperament or character. With oneself and others too.

Grumpy …hmmm .. do you really need an explanation of this?

I feel in this blog what I want to share is understanding gentleness and how when one is grumpy you can still be gentle with people.

Every one of us has gentleness within the core of ourselves. Gentleness is a strength. You will notice that gentleness comes with reliability. You know you can rely on gentle people and they are strong and have control over their reactions.

A key factor in developing more gentleness is simply caring about other people, the world, your hopes and dreams. Being gentle is just a way of life. A person who is gentle is normally always kind to people.

Ok, let’s get grumpy now ( haha!! )

I have personally encountered many situations when there is someone in a grumpy mood and my first reaction in my head is %&*#@ … it took me a while but now I honestly say to myself ( most times ) How important is what this person is saying or doing? Is it really going to impact my life? I actually think of how what I say or do will change things around me. Sometimes, I have realized, that just not reacting makes me feel better.

When one is grumpy they just rave, rant, don’t think and say things and are often insensitive to others' feelings too. Now just think when someone is like this, instead of reacting You just

• Look at them with gentleness
• Hum a song in your head
• Focus on what you have in your life
• Think about what you can do for someone today by not reacting
• Just smile ( Oops .. that may irritate some )
• Chant a mantra

What I am trying to say is that if You really want this will teach you 1. How not to react and 2. Actually, work with a gentler version of yourself. 

A couple of weeks ago  I went through a really tough day where I felt I was just being attacked by everyone. Initially, I got really upset and honestly then thought instead of reacting to their grumpiness let me focus on what I have and am and love …  I just thought of my children and how I was grateful for who they are and what they are for and to me. I promise You a minute later I felt better and none of what had happened is anything I reacted to.

When one is gentle ( or trying to be, like I am ) you live happier as you forgive more easily, react more positively, help people around and get a lot more done in life.

Is it possible to be gentle while grumpy? YES because as a gentle person you may get into a bad mood too. But since you forgive easily, focus on what you have to be Grateful for and do not respond or react unnecessarily to people or events,  you can be gentle in any and every situation. And I am sure that once you realise and tap into your gentle side, you will be ready to let go of your grumpy one. 

I think when l am feeling grumpy  I truly now focus on what gratitude and what I can do to make another person smile. 

What are your thoughts?

Live gently grumpy?

Live Gentle or Live Grumpy?

#beinggentle, #expectations, #gentleness, #gratitude, #happiness, #holisticlifecoach, #holisticliving, #lifeslessons

EXPECTATIONS

I do wish I had no expectations .. to start of with myself. 

I am in a bit of a frenzy as the last few weeks a lot has been happening. At this moment, I am in the middle of helping my children move and set up homes. As we are in London, there is no real help and we are doing everything ourselves. 

In the middle of this, I was really upset as I did not have this blog ready to publish this morning. I expect to have my blog ready every Friday evening and published Saturday morning. 

This is an expectation I have of myself 🙂 

An expectation is believing something is going to happen or should be a certain way. 

The most important thing for you to learn is You are not in this world to live up to other peoples expectations and other people are not here to live up to yours. 

I may feel the right thing when I see my children is that they should come and give me a hug. If they do not do this one morning it becomes an unmet expectation.

How do we deal with unmet expectations?

We definitely have to learn from this. This is teaching us something we need to learn.

We need to forgive and let go. By holding on we are not helping ourselves.

See it as a little blip in this wonderful life of Yours. 

Give these expectations as little power as possible. 

There are basically 2 types of expectations – realistic and unrealistic. 

When one has unrealistic expectations they have a desire to dictate how people should behave around them. ( Like some politicians, stars, prominent businessmen etc ) They want to be in control of everything.

To live happy and free of too many expectations one needs to

• Stop expecting them to know what you are thinking. ( unless I tell my kids that I love their hug every morning, how will they know that I expect and love for them to hug me .
• Stop expecting everyone to agree with you and to respect you more than you respect yourself.
• Stop expecting them to fit your idea of who they are. They are who they are and cannot  change for you ( maybe you can first change a bit for them? ) 
• Stop expecting them to need, love you. Just like respecting ourselves, we need to Love ourselves and when we do we do not need it that from from others. 

As Bruce Lee said: 

“ I am not in this world to live up to your expectations and You are not in world to live up to mine.”

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W-WALK YOUR TALK

A lot of people I work with would have heard me use this phrase.

“Walk your talk” – Something I totally believe.

Wiktionary says: It is idiotic to say “talk the talk” or “walk the walk” since the only version of the phrase that makes sense is “Walk the talk.”

This figuratively means that you do what you say. You take action (you walk) on what you say (your talk).

Let me just make this simple: If I sit on a couch and pound junk food and lecture people to eat well and be healthy, am I walking my talk?  Or, if I do not live by all that I share with you’ll in my blogs .. what am I doing?

Or If I am going to ask my children to clean their rooms, I need to make sure my room is clean first.

Walk your Talk, according to me means being true to yourself .. being authentic, having integrity in life.

Do you say what you truly mean to say?. And do you do what you mean? Do you make promises to people and not keep them?

Do you walk the talk, or just talk the talk?

If we cannot be authentic to ourselves, how can we live integral, positive and truthful lives?

Florence Scovel Shinn, a metaphysician of the 1920s, said, “There is always plenty on man’s pathway; but it can only be brought into manifestation through desire, faith or the spoken word.” Every time we speak, we create a road of some sort. The quality of that road, and how far it goes, will be directly related to the integrity of our word.

So what is Integrity? It is the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles. When one has integrity, you are true to yourself and will not do anything that demeans or dishonors you or someone else.

I believe honesty in every aspect of our life is vital. At home, at work, with friends and family, strangers .. in fact with everyone You meet and interact within life.

Our words and our deeds should say the same thing.

Most good leaders you see, hear or meet will walk their talk. Most people like to see and follow good leaders, not just be dictated by them.  A good leader, a guide will never tell You what you must do... People do not like or appreciate hypocrites...So if you want to be a good and successful leader it is important for people to trust You. You need to have integrity and walk your talk.

“Words do less than 10 things, but actions do more than 10 thousand things. Leaders don’t talk in vain; they follow with actions.”

By being honest to yourself, to others. By keeping your word, your promise. If you have committed to someone or something, follow it through. Do the right thing.

What you say, what you do, what you think, how you act defines who you truly are.

When you walk your talk, you build your own personal integrity.

So do you walk your talk?

K - Kindness

A quick short blog

My this blog K has been delayed a lot. Am sorry, I must say.

I felt really guilty when I could not get it out on time, but I told myself, it’s ok. It’s more important that I am kind to myself and not feel guilty.

Life over the last few weeks has been very hectic .. I feel I have just been on the move and in this state honestly between my health and travel I just could not write.

A wonderful children’s program ( Sesame Street )  has a wonderful video that teaches kindness to children saying K is for kindness. Unlike many books that taught us K for king or K for kangaroo, I feel we must teach children how important kindness is to others and to ourselves too.

Kindness is defined as the quality of being friendly, generous and compassionate. If we can apply this to our life we by being kind to others become more gentle, more affectionate, more compassionate too.

THERE ARE MANY TYPES OF KINDNESS:

•          Kindness to people: giving a sibling a hug, helping someone in need, and listening to a friend.

•          Kindness to animals: adopting a pet, filling up a cat’s water bowl, or walking a dog.

•          Kindness to the environment: recycling, planting a garden, throwing garbage away.

Kindness has been found by Scientists to be the most important in satisfaction and stability of relationships. Many colleges, including Harvard, are now emphasizing this on applications for admission.

As this is a quick short blog, my only question to you is

Do you show kindness to yourself?

And if so, can you share the different ways you do.

We all do learn from each other right .

D – DISNEY

Why did I call this one Disney? If I say the word Disney what comes to your mind? The word “Disney” reminds me of my childhood. Of fun and laughter and excitement. It reminds me of the time we took our children to Disney ( their fun, their curiosity, laughter, excitement) and it truly brings a huge smile to my face and my heart.

Recently someone was riling me and I turned around and said ‘Stop troubling me ..I will patt patt You’ They completely cracked up. Who says patt patt? It’s a word we used when our children were young to say I will smack you. I still use these words unconsciously .. I still use a lot of words, terminology I used as a child. Yes, I love children, love being childlike and this really connects with the child within me.

I realized that I love being a child – I am very curious, love laughing, giggling, dancing, playing and just being a little girl. At this age, I still often tie my hair in pigtails ( as you can see in the photo). It brings out the girl in me.

For my Birthday last year My husband and 2 boys took me to meet Santa Claus in Finland – OMG! I really was like a little girl running around and so excited. I also told Santa that it was my Birthday

Our inner child is that part of our personality that still taps into the childlike feeling within. Many therapists think it’s important for adults to get in touch with their inner child. This is so we can accept ourselves and be more loving and compassionate with ourselves…
Healing your Inner Child will allow you to fill any gaps and this will help you live a more positive and rewarding life .. one filled with fun, laughter, compassion authenticity, and most importantly, with self- love and love for others.

What’s childish? And what is childlike? When one is being Childish one is self-centered, throwing tantrums, being bratty and wanting one’s way.  When one is childlike there is innocence, curiosity, compassion, and a sense of wonder about the world.  The main thing here to focus on is the childlike qualities ..not childish. And in these childlike qualities, you find your inner child.

There are many different ways to nurture your inner child.

You can send loving messages to yourself. Tell yourself regularly – “I love you and am grateful and appreciative of all that you are.“

Value, love and appreciate yourself
Look after yourself.
Do things you enjoy for yourself.
Respect yourself
Set healthy boundaries with others.
Believe in yourself.
Be compassionate with yourself.
Sing, dance, do all the things which make you feel like a child

I definitely relate to this saying by James Broughton

“ I’M HAPPY TO REPORT MY INNER CHILD IS STILL ALIVE “