Gentle and grumpy | Anjanashamballa | Life Coach Bangalore

Gentle and grumpy? Yes 🙂

Ok, let’s start with Gentle. Gentle is being kind, mild or tender temperament or character. With oneself and others too.

Grumpy …hmmm .. do you really need an explanation of this?

I feel in this blog what I want to share is understanding gentleness and how when one is grumpy you can still be gentle with people.

Every one of us has gentleness within the core of ourselves. Gentleness is a strength. You will notice that gentleness comes with reliability. You know you can rely on gentle people and they are strong and have control over their reactions.

A key factor in developing more gentleness is simply caring about other people, the world, your hopes and dreams. Being gentle is just a way of life. A person who is gentle is normally always kind to people.

Ok, let’s get grumpy now ( haha!! )

I have personally encountered many situations when there is someone in a grumpy mood and my first reaction in my head is %&*#@ … it took me a while but now I honestly say to myself ( most times ) How important is what this person is saying or doing? Is it really going to impact my life? I actually think of how what I say or do will change things around me. Sometimes, I have realized, that just not reacting makes me feel better.

When one is grumpy they just rave, rant, don’t think and say things and are often insensitive to others' feelings too. Now just think when someone is like this, instead of reacting You just

• Look at them with gentleness
• Hum a song in your head
• Focus on what you have in your life
• Think about what you can do for someone today by not reacting
• Just smile ( Oops .. that may irritate some )
• Chant a mantra

What I am trying to say is that if You really want this will teach you 1. How not to react and 2. Actually, work with a gentler version of yourself. 

A couple of weeks ago  I went through a really tough day where I felt I was just being attacked by everyone. Initially, I got really upset and honestly then thought instead of reacting to their grumpiness let me focus on what I have and am and love …  I just thought of my children and how I was grateful for who they are and what they are for and to me. I promise You a minute later I felt better and none of what had happened is anything I reacted to.

When one is gentle ( or trying to be, like I am ) you live happier as you forgive more easily, react more positively, help people around and get a lot more done in life.

Is it possible to be gentle while grumpy? YES because as a gentle person you may get into a bad mood too. But since you forgive easily, focus on what you have to be Grateful for and do not respond or react unnecessarily to people or events,  you can be gentle in any and every situation. And I am sure that once you realise and tap into your gentle side, you will be ready to let go of your grumpy one. 

I think when l am feeling grumpy  I truly now focus on what gratitude and what I can do to make another person smile. 

What are your thoughts?

Live gently grumpy?

Live Gentle or Live Grumpy?

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D – DISNEY

Why did I call this one Disney? If I say the word Disney what comes to your mind? The word “Disney” reminds me of my childhood. Of fun and laughter and excitement. It reminds me of the time we took our children to Disney ( their fun, their curiosity, laughter, excitement) and it truly brings a huge smile to my face and my heart.

Recently someone was riling me and I turned around and said ‘Stop troubling me ..I will patt patt You’ They completely cracked up. Who says patt patt? It’s a word we used when our children were young to say I will smack you. I still use these words unconsciously .. I still use a lot of words, terminology I used as a child. Yes, I love children, love being childlike and this really connects with the child within me.

I realized that I love being a child – I am very curious, love laughing, giggling, dancing, playing and just being a little girl. At this age, I still often tie my hair in pigtails ( as you can see in the photo). It brings out the girl in me.

For my Birthday last year My husband and 2 boys took me to meet Santa Claus in Finland – OMG! I really was like a little girl running around and so excited. I also told Santa that it was my Birthday

Our inner child is that part of our personality that still taps into the childlike feeling within. Many therapists think it’s important for adults to get in touch with their inner child. This is so we can accept ourselves and be more loving and compassionate with ourselves…
Healing your Inner Child will allow you to fill any gaps and this will help you live a more positive and rewarding life .. one filled with fun, laughter, compassion authenticity, and most importantly, with self- love and love for others.

What’s childish? And what is childlike? When one is being Childish one is self-centered, throwing tantrums, being bratty and wanting one’s way.  When one is childlike there is innocence, curiosity, compassion, and a sense of wonder about the world.  The main thing here to focus on is the childlike qualities ..not childish. And in these childlike qualities, you find your inner child.

There are many different ways to nurture your inner child.

You can send loving messages to yourself. Tell yourself regularly – “I love you and am grateful and appreciative of all that you are.“

Value, love and appreciate yourself
Look after yourself.
Do things you enjoy for yourself.
Respect yourself
Set healthy boundaries with others.
Believe in yourself.
Be compassionate with yourself.
Sing, dance, do all the things which make you feel like a child

I definitely relate to this saying by James Broughton

“ I’M HAPPY TO REPORT MY INNER CHILD IS STILL ALIVE “