J - Judging Ourselves | Anjana Shamballa | Angel card therapy in Bangalore

Judgment is just an opinion - it could be a positive or negative one .. but it truly is just an opinion.

For example - You may feel Anjana writes these blogs and they are very personal. Now that is your opinion, your judgment about my blogs. But does that mean they are true? No. It’s what your opinion is about my blogs.

I feel I want to share whatever I can with You and hopefully hearing about a personal story may make it easier for You to connect with. So when we are judging someone it is just our opinion about them, not the truth. You may make it your truth, but what is the real truth?

There is an amazing verse in the Bible which says “ Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.“

This is something to always remember. If we have so many opinions of others, how much do we judge ourselves?

Self-judgement is like someone within trying to tell you what is right and wrong ( in their opinion )

• I should have... I am so silly.
• Why do I keep making the same mistakes? Why can't I learn?
• I called her and she hasn’t called me back. She must think or be ...
• I shouldn’t have said that. Oh dear, why did I?
• I should, I could, why didn’t I?

Can you take a diary and now note a list of things or ways you speak to yourself and judge yourself?

One of the ways I work with this in my workshops is to ask people to think of a friend going through a hardship. What would you say to the? Would you console them? How would you react?

Now put yourself in the same situation and honestly think - what would you say to yourself?

Can you be as kind to yourself as you would have been with your friend?

Butterflies can't see their wings. They can't see how truly beautiful they are, but everyone else can. People are like that as well.” ― Naya Rivera

There is an amazing method to judge ourselves less and this is called the DUAL method.

1. Don't pass judgment. If you find yourself being judgmental, stop yourself. ...
2. Understand. Instead of judging someone for what he's done or how he looks, try instead to understand the person. ...
3. Accept. Once you begin to understand, or at least think you kind of understand, try to accept. ...
4. Love.

To liberate yourself from your own self-judgment is to liberate others from it as well. To love yourself is an act of love for the world.” ― Vironika Tugaleva

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I Ikigai | Anjana Shamballa | Life Coach in Bangalore

The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life Might Just Help You Live a More Fulfilling Life – ( Your reason to Be / for being )

The Japanese island of Okinawa, where ikigai has its origins, is said to be home to the largest population of centenarians in the world.

One international study found that people who have a sense of purpose in life are at lower risk of death and heart disease. Why? Researchers found that those who feel purpose often have healthier lifestyles. They are more motivated and resilient, which protects them from stress and burnout.

Discovering your own ikigai is said to bring fulfilment, happiness and make you live longer.

Want to find your Ikigai? Ask yourself the following four questions:
What you love (your passion)
What the world needs (your mission)
What you are good at (your vocation)
What you can get paid for (your profession)

{ So am going to try and find and share mine here…
I love being there for people, helping them, sharing all I have with them. I want to help people heal and laugh and just Be. When I am doing this or my sessions or workshops is when I feel the happiest.
I feel the world needs more love and compassion and understanding and being there for one another.
I feel I am good at helping people tap into a happier and more positive version of themselves.
So doing this makes me a coach, a healer? And Yes I can and do get paid for this. }

Ikigai has a few essential qualities that separate it from the “follow your passion” truism as we conceive of it in Western culture:

It’s challenging. Your ikigai should lead to mastery and growth.
It’s your choice. You should feel a certain degree of autonomy and freedom pursuing your ikigai.
It involves a commitment of time and belief, perhaps to a particular cause, skill, trade, or group of people.
It boosts your well-being. Ikigai is associated with positive relationships and good health. It gives you more energy than it takes away.

In their book Ikigai The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life, Hector Garcia and Francesc Miralles break down the ten rules that can help anyone find their own ikigai.

1. Stay active and don’t retire
2. Leave urgency behind and adopt a slower pace of life
3. Only eat until you are 80 per cent full
4. Surround yourself with good friends
5. Get in shape through daily, gentle exercise
6. Smile and acknowledge people around you
7. Reconnect with nature
8. Give thanks to anything that brightens our day and makes us feel alive.
9. Live in the moment
10. Follow your ikigai

Author Neil Pasricha suggests running your ikigai through the Saturday Morning Test:

The Saturday Morning Test is your answer to one simple question: What do you do on a Saturday morning when you have nothing to do?

“Follow your bliss.” Find where it is, and don’t be afraid to follow it.”

For holistic life coaching in bangalore reach Anjana Shamballa.

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Humbleness | Anjana shamballa | Holistic Life Coach in Bangalore

Humbleness – not really considered a word but is sometimes used, though it is not considered standard by some.

Humbleness is the quality of being modest or unpretentious. When one is humble one keeps you from bragging about all the places you’ve traveled, things You possess and the many languages you speak.

The reason I chose the word “ HUMBLENESS “ is because of a story my father had told me when I was a child.

My grandfather shared this with my father and he shared it with me.

If you see a mango tree without any mangoes you can see it stand tall. As the tree gets more mangoes, you can see it bend down, lower itself. The more mangoes it has, the slower it goes. Papa said “ Always remember to be like a mango tree. The more you have, the more humble you should be” WOW! That is a story I have never forgotten and hope to learn to live with humbleness.

How can we be more humble?

Stop talking. One way to practice humility is to spend more time listening than you do talking. … share your ear.

Give other people credit.

It’s absolutely ok to admit when you’re wrong.

Let others take, talk first. Go last.

No one of us is an expert in everything. Ask for advice. It will help You.

Praise others. Make them feel good for what they have done or who they are and see how good you feel too.

‘Research shows that humbleness is connected with courage, integrity, trust, self-control, and better relationships.

These are some characteristics of humble people.

• A humble person is teachable. When one is humble one can always learn from the education and experiences of his life and others.
• A humble person is open and is quick to read, invite feedback, and ask good questions.
• A humble person is at peace with themselves and others. Humility puts relationships before the need to be right. Humility enjoys balance and harmony.
• A humble person is grateful. 
• A humble person is slow to offend and quick to forgive.
• A humble person asks for help. Humility helps us know who we are and who we are not.
• Humility allows us to live authentically. A humble person treats everybody with respect.
•  A humble person is patient and doesn’t easily get frustrated with the imperfection of others.
• A humble person recognizes their own limitations. Humility doesn’t have a negative view of self. Humility has an accurate view of self.
• A humble person celebrates the accomplishments of others

So here’s to new humbler beginnings.

Source: Anjana shamballa Blog 

Gentle and grumpy | Anjanashamballa | Life Coach Bangalore

Gentle and grumpy? Yes 🙂

Ok, let’s start with Gentle. Gentle is being kind, mild or tender temperament or character. With oneself and others too.

Grumpy …hmmm .. do you really need an explanation of this?

I feel in this blog what I want to share is understanding gentleness and how when one is grumpy you can still be gentle with people.

Every one of us has gentleness within the core of ourselves. Gentleness is a strength. You will notice that gentleness comes with reliability. You know you can rely on gentle people and they are strong and have control over their reactions.

A key factor in developing more gentleness is simply caring about other people, the world, your hopes and dreams. Being gentle is just a way of life. A person who is gentle is normally always kind to people.

Ok, let’s get grumpy now ( haha!! )

I have personally encountered many situations when there is someone in a grumpy mood and my first reaction in my head is %&*#@ … it took me a while but now I honestly say to myself ( most times ) How important is what this person is saying or doing? Is it really going to impact my life? I actually think of how what I say or do will change things around me. Sometimes, I have realized, that just not reacting makes me feel better.

When one is grumpy they just rave, rant, don’t think and say things and are often insensitive to others' feelings too. Now just think when someone is like this, instead of reacting You just

• Look at them with gentleness
• Hum a song in your head
• Focus on what you have in your life
• Think about what you can do for someone today by not reacting
• Just smile ( Oops .. that may irritate some )
• Chant a mantra

What I am trying to say is that if You really want this will teach you 1. How not to react and 2. Actually, work with a gentler version of yourself. 

A couple of weeks ago  I went through a really tough day where I felt I was just being attacked by everyone. Initially, I got really upset and honestly then thought instead of reacting to their grumpiness let me focus on what I have and am and love …  I just thought of my children and how I was grateful for who they are and what they are for and to me. I promise You a minute later I felt better and none of what had happened is anything I reacted to.

When one is gentle ( or trying to be, like I am ) you live happier as you forgive more easily, react more positively, help people around and get a lot more done in life.

Is it possible to be gentle while grumpy? YES because as a gentle person you may get into a bad mood too. But since you forgive easily, focus on what you have to be Grateful for and do not respond or react unnecessarily to people or events,  you can be gentle in any and every situation. And I am sure that once you realise and tap into your gentle side, you will be ready to let go of your grumpy one. 

I think when l am feeling grumpy  I truly now focus on what gratitude and what I can do to make another person smile. 

What are your thoughts?

Live gently grumpy?

Live Gentle or Live Grumpy?

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